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Swapping Places With Dad

My dad standing in his garden.
 
As a teenager, I had the dumbest dad on the planet. He was always quick to offer advice that, without fail, made absolutely no sense for a youngster living in the modern world. After all, he wasn't "up" on the latest gadgets, the latest music, the latest fads or anything else that interested my generation.

Dad had this strange notion that nothing in life came easy and that shortcuts were few and fickle. He believed that while a formal education was well and good, it was only truly useful if it was combined with experience and common sense. His mantra: Even though there is no substitute for experience, the experience doesn't have to be your own - you can and should learn from the mistakes of others. At 16, I just couldn't understand why he spoke such foolishness!

Dad always said that one must work hard in order to be successful in life, and that we should be thankful for what we had and work hard to do better. He even thought it was more important for us kids to work in the garden or around the house than spend all of our free time hanging out with our friends and blowing what little money we had earned the week before.

And don't even think about borrowing money! According to dad, going into debt should be done wisely and very rarely. It was much better to "save up" and buy later with cash. Now what sense did that make when I was living in a modern world with lots of things to enjoy spending money on? Instant gratification was a concept that was completely foreign to dad! He said that people who took shortcuts and tried to live above their means would come to regret it some day.

Yes, dad had plenty of advice to give - advice that was guaranteed to help us kids live a better and longer life if we would just take heed of it. But I didn't fall for it, no sir! After all, dad wasn't rich. He didn't drive a new car or live in a big fancy house. He didn't take expensive vacations or own lots of "toys" like boats and RV's and such. No, dad was really just a simple man living a simple life. Why on earth should I or anyone else place much value on his advice?

But as I grew older and began to gain some experience of my own (i.e. made my own mistakes), I was troubled by the fact that some of dad's ludicrous predictions were coming true. Not that they were valid mind you - I had simply run into some bad luck... Dad's advice was still dumb - by sheer coincidence it simply happened to appear that it wasn't...

I grew older still, ever gaining even more and more valuable experience (i.e. making more and more mistakes). After a while, it finally hit me...dad had been right all along. It was me who had really been the dumb one.

Looking back, I can clearly see that my dad was actually one of the smartest and wisest men I have ever known. He had given me all of that advice out of love, not out of resentment or because of a desire to hold me back. He simply wanted me to have a better life than he had. He wanted me to be able to skip the pain and disappointments that he had had to endure ever since he quit school after the 6th grade.

In short, dad desperately wanted me to learn from his mistakes so that I wouldn't have to suffer the consequences of making my own. But I didn't listen - I thought I knew it all when in reality I knew very little. I thought dad was dumb and misguided when in reality he was highly intelligent and very wise.

Somehow as the years rolled by we gradually swapped places. I'm ashamed to admit it, but my "know-it-all" attitude and his silly admonishments eventually turned into a deep regret that I had failed to take advantage of what he had to offer - sage advice for his child, given in love.

I miss dad a lot and think of him often, and even though it pains me to think about how much better my life could have been if I had listened to him, I can't help but smile and feel richly blessed when I reminisce about his life and legacy of love...and take pride in the fact that my dad was one smart man!
 


In memory of Paul Rouse.
(1918-2000) 


Note: Although it isn't the highest quality, today's photo is one of my favorite pictures of dad. He loved to tend his garden and watch things grow. I used to tell him that Kroger had the best garden around. I guess he was right and I was wrong there too...


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