Going on a first or second date? You will want to make a good impression that forces your date to think about you from the moment you leave them all the way to the next moment they see you. You want them to get excited about seeing you again and dream about you until they do.
Basically you want to make a really good impression on your date. Here are 5 ways to make a good and lasting impression:
1. Be a Little Mysterious
Leave them wanting to know more about you. Actually, leave them HAVING to know more about you. You can do this in a number of ways.
- Talk about something that you are really great at but you can’t show them at the moment.
- Let them know that you have a lot of talents in life that have got you to where you are today.
- Give them the impression that there is something really great about you that you are not telling them by displaying a sense of unwavering self-confidence.
- Tell them about something you enjoy and give them the impression they will get to see it sometime soon if they want.
2. Make Them Laugh Out Loud
When your date reflects on you afterwards they are going to reflect on the highlights of you and your date – and usually laughter is one of those highlights that they will remember with a fond memory.
I know you’ve done this…you’ve been at work or sitting down for supper and all of a sudden you remember something really funny that someone did or said and you start laughing as if you are in the moment still. Chances are you feel really good about that person and think about them fondly. This is what great impressions are all about!
If you can make them remember something you said or did and burst out laughing while they are sitting in a boring work meeting, then you have made a good impression on them and chances are they are going to want to see you again.
3. Pay Attention To Them
If you pay attention to what they say and make them feel like what they are saying to you is actually interesting and important in your mind, then you will leave a lasting impression on them, without a doubt.
Everyone wants to feel like they are interesting and valuable and by giving them the attention they deserve you will be telling them that they are. You can do this by:
- Responding with appropriate comments to what they say.
- Nodding your head in agreement.
- Allowing them to tell you more so that they really think you are interested in what they are saying.
- Making the appropriate faces at the appropriate time – ie. Surprise, awe, and sadness.
- Giving them direct eye contact.
4. Do Something Just To Make Them Happy
If you want to really get their attention then do something to make them feel good without expecting something in return.
For instance, if you know ahead of time that they LOVE Starbucks, then get them a gift card for Starbucks. Or if you know that they are a big Aerosmith fan then get them some sort of memorabilia from Aerosmith.
Don’t go overboard by getting them something too expensive or too ‘out there’, because that can be weird and leave them with a not-so-good memory of you. Just give them something that they will enjoy and they will remember that gesture, and you will make a really good impression on them.
5. Use Conversation to Its Full Advantage
Don’t just talk, don’t just listen, and don’t avoid talking and listening. Make sure you give the appropriate amount of attention and conversation on your date and you will make a very good impression.
Most people are really good at talking or really good at listening, and they are more than happy to let their date take the lead and do whatever they feel comfortable doing. But an active participant in a conversation is much more desirable than one who just sits back and is not very active.
Someone who can hold their own in a conversation, has intelligent things to say, and makes you feel good when you are talking is going to leave a real good impression – so be that person!
Do these 5 things on your date and you will leave a really good impression on them and cause them to reflect on you and your date and look forward to the next time they get to see you!
About the Author: Bellaisa writes for the Relationship Circle on many relationship issues including how to find love. She has a passion for seeing people in happy and healthy relationships.
Credits: Photo courtesy of Craig Toron.