We often measure our lives either by the material possessions we have, the achievements we have made (count the number of trophies or certificates you have in your study) or the success of your job or career.
But underneath all this veneer, are we truly happy? Many of us like to remain single because of the freedom it gives. But as we age, we realize that time will soon be merciless to us and we start to wish more and more to find the person we would like to grow old with. The lifetime partner who we can love and serve and who can love us for who we truly are.
Some people try to put a comparison between men and women staying single but, in truth, the feeling of emptiness and an unfulfilled life is the same for both. When the loneliness starts to creep in, the feeling of desolation takes over. This is especially true for singles who have experienced tragic love lives in the past and decided to give up and just throw in the towel.
So here’s a personal story and experience I would like to share with you…
Though an average Joe with a university degree and above average success in my career, I’ve had my share of love tragedies; more than enough to write a TV series about. First there was the very messy divorce followed by a messy custody battle for my daughter. And if that wasn’t enough, my share of girlfriends seemed to occupy the whole psychological spectrum range.
There’s the girlfriend who was an illegal substance dependent, the girl who decided to work in another country as an expat, the girl who decided to leave me for her aunt’s bribe to send her to college, and finally, getting tangled up with a married woman who was a cross between a sociopath and a psychopath. Shades of Glenn Close and Fatal Attraction! You get the picture – minus the killings of course, but enough to get a restraining order. My job was greatly affected as well.
I had already decided to give up on finding my life partner when my co-worker taught me about dating websites. At first I was a bit skeptical about online dating sites, but I still gave it a go. After getting quite a number of messaging and responses and even meeting a few personally, I was about to give up again when I finally hit pay dirt. This particular girl seemed to be really special. Our messaging and chats were very open and honest.
Finally, we decided to meet personally. Our first meeting was ever so brief and lasted only 10 minutes but, we did agree to meet again for a lunch date. We were both visibly nervous and feeling like high school kids meeting for the first time. Of course, I was very careful to meet her in a very public place so as not to give her the wrong impression. When we met on that lunch date, we hit it off pretty fast. We seemed to have a lot in common in life. A couple of days later, we had our first real dinner date. I took her to this romantic seaside seafood restaurant. The magic and sparks were flying and we knew we were in for something special.
Well, the rest is history and we’re still an item and making plans for the bright future which I know lies ahead. I have no regrets trying out online dating sites, I did find my soulmate and true happiness there. Take it from me when I tell you that online does work – not just for me but, for thousands of others who have tried it all over the world.
About the author: My name is Matt Fuller, I hope you enjoyed my personal experience with online dating. Cyberspace is an incredible place to find connections. Free dating sites are connecting unlikely worlds every day.
Credits: Photo courtesy of Mariano Arriaga.